Single Life

 Sometimes I feel like we never give ourselves time to learn and time to grow after our failed relationships. The bible says, counsel in a man`s heart is like deep waters. But a man of understanding, will draw it out. When I started this blog, I emphasized on how much we date wrong. Even our elders did not grab what I am sharing here. If that would be a case, we would not be having so many issues in our communities today. 

The truth about life is mistakes are our foot print to help us gain experience. You can never master a thing without making mistakes first. Each relationship you find yourself in, the is something to learn and the is something to give. You can never stop learning and you can never stop growing. The only thing that will stop you from learning and growing is death. I remember one time I asked myself this question, if Adam and Eve were alive today, what would they be doing differently to keep their love life together. 

If you can think about it, that won`t be easy. Some of you life got you tired already and you have not even reached 30. If you think making money, running a business or looking for work is hard, try living life with someone. Relationship is hard work just like running a business. Same principles you apply on business are same principles required maintaining a healthy relationship. If our parents knew better, they would have prepared us when adolescent started having an effect on us.

When we are young, we will be foolish when it comes to love. At that time we have no idea what love is all about. After a break up, being single, that is where you need to sit and view your own character from the previous relationship that you just came out from. Because inside of a relationships, your true characteristics will come out. You start to figure who you are and what you are capable at. Too many times when you are in a relationship, it is difficult to see that about yourself.

So, when you are living a single life, you have an opportunity to figure that out and bring change where it is needed. Remember, we are humans and we are not perfect. Our mistakes will be there and we out to learn from them and better ourselves. The whole purpose here is to allow yourself to grow and to heal. Dealing with a heartbreak is not easy but conquering it is strength and maturity. When you are a person who is all about grows and maturity, you will never rush to be in another relationship.

Single life is where you deal with all the toxic emotions, feelings and anger. You let them out and you deal with them. When you are single you are not sick. Find yourself and get yourself ready for the next relationship. Relationship is about two people who are whole coming together to enjoy life and to be fruitful in it. When you are whole, any storm that comes, you will be able to face it together. Being whole does not mean you have fully grown and you are perfect. Embrace your single life.