When Maturity Calls, ANSWER!!

Life is a journey that needs one to understand that growing up is a necessity. In the midst of the un-favourite circumstances, we have to move on because the future awaits the mature us. The is a scripture that I love in the bible that says, That the heir, as long as he is a child, differs nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all (Gal 4:1). As long as you still behave they way you used to do when you were a child, certain things in life wont come to you. Because maturity is not about age.

We need to be people who evolve when it comes to growth. That has to inspire us regardless of the pains in our lives. We all come from dysfunctional families. Our situation is not going to be the same but we all come from dysfunctional families. Rich or poor we all come from that and this has nothing to do with money. Maturity is maturity and is available to everyone and this is something that is visible and cannot be hidden.

The challenges in life are the transportation that carries the experiences that help us to grow and become mature. Every time you walk away from a challenge, that only you needed to face, you walk away from an experience that would have made you better. In my early years when I started dating, on every break up, I would give myself time to heal and time to reflect back and see what did I learn from that experience. I look at the good and the bad. I have never been a guy who loved to jump from one relationship to another.

I would look at the good, the qualities that I have portrayed and I would take them to my next relationship because I know that I am capable. I will look at the bad and change from that and better myself. Hence I have a problem with man/woman who jump into a relationship without giving themselves that opportunity. The is a good and bad character out of us all. There are many man and woman who are so good, but because of the bad character, they loose good relationships.

Every experience is educational. Maturity comes this way. You cannot behave and do things the way you used to do them like when you were in your last relationship. I am going through a divorce now and that trade mark of mine, I have worked on it already. The good that I have seen, I have embraced it and the bad I have seen, I have dealt with it. My next relationship cannot suffer because of my failed marriage. At this point, I can do better because I have learned so much and I am prepared to learn further.

The mature me says, my ex is my ex. My current is my current. The is no comparison between the two because they are not the same. Same principles when it comes to business. You learn as you evolve. Certain people no matter how rich they could be, you would not want to do business with them. I would not want to associate myself with people who do not want to grow. People who do not want to grow are people who do not want to do better.

 Maturity carries you to a platform where you choose your association wisely. I am not saying that being mature is being perfect. But being mature puts you in a place where you learn to do things better. Even in the midst of mistakes, a mature person will know how to rise. At the age I am in right now, all I care about is stability, commitment, family, marriage, business and politics. Being in competition is boys staff. You cannot be in a relationship with someone who is in a competition with you, but rather be with someone who is challenging you to do better in a healthy manner.

Maturity will make you be that cool driver on a highway who is mindful of his speed, playing his good old school music, minding his own business and not worried about who is passing him. Your life is your own with the ones in it with you. When maturity calls, answer, because you need to start somewhere. Your foundation needs to be structured. Stop running away from your challenges. They are there to build you. Date someone who is willing to learn and to grow.

Lets date right.