Parenthood

In 2014, my son was born. Having an experience of raising a 8 year old girl from a marriage that started in 2011. I remember the encounter like it was just yesterday with no background experience of parenting. She was 3 when I came into the picture and I struggled so much on creating a bond. With my son it was natural but with her I had to dig deep to make it work. I was not bound to run or walk away because I knew there, I was called to learn and to grow.

When we look at the word Parenthood, Parent simply means an individual adult (Father / Mother) and Hood simply means a cover or something that covers. The whole responsibility of a parent is to cover/protect their children. If we can take a lesson from a Hen and see how it cares for it loved one`s, a parent needs to arm his/herself in that manner when it comes to their children. With no experience I knew I was bound to make mistakes and through those mistakes you learn to do better.

When my son came, I was ready. I played my role as a father to my step-daughter and I realized the qualities I have. Take note, this is something that my father was supposed to model it to me but I had to learn the hard way. I managed to pull it off because I dealt with issues I had with him before he passed on. See, we are all born with that bone structure to became parents when we grow up but it will be up to you to allow it to cause you to grow and to become one.

Our generation today knows how to make babies but lack that bone to become good parents. They do not know how to become good parents because they too have issues with their own parents. Imagine a woman who have issues with her mother or father and she goes and have a child with a man who has issues as well and later when the child is born, he is gone. This is a reality of most woman in the world. 

Everything becomes difficult and instead of covering your child you uncover him/her. Man struggle to coach their boys and woman struggle to teach their girls. How will you teach your child on something that you have issues on? "The bible says train up a child in the way he should go". I love this scripture because it says, in the way he should go. Not in the way you want him to go. Every child is born with a gift/talent. And every child is assigned an angel to walk with him. Even a demon is assigned for him. Subject for another day.

The training has to start while they are young. This shows the importance of us that we need to be ready when they come. Parenthood is something that needs not to be taken for granted. It can take the life out of you. As a father I know what it means. I decided to stay and be there for my son. Not only to be there but to train him. Just because you are paying maintenance that does not mean you are a good father. You have to be there. You have to train him.

As a Kaizer Chiefs fan I know how frustrating it is when a player does not come to the party and misses opportunities and we at the grand stands shouts at him. Only if we could get into the field and play, we would understand his frustrations. This is how the other parents are like. His/Her is not there but they know how to shout when you make a mistake. You have to figure everything out before you start having unprotected sex. You cannot have multiple sexual partners and expect your son to respect woman while your not.

The area where you struggle to deal with in your child life, simply shows you that you have issues on or you do not have required knowledge for it. Remember, the path they are walking on, you have walked on it before. I do not believe that my son can trick me while I have lived life before him. Some parents are ignorant and some are arrogant. When we do not deal with our own issues, we shut them up and later they turn us to be something that we were not supposed to be. You went through what you went through and it is time to put excuses aside and fix yourself because your child needs covering. 

Our children needs us and they need proper training from healthy parents.