Relationship fall outs (Part 2)

I was watching The Oprah Winfrey Show when I heard this principle from Will Smith. He was talking about how life moves in circles. Reminded me of one of the scriptures in the book of Ecclesiastes where this is recorded saying, THE IS NOTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN. Meaning what was will be. Will Smith said, in life the is birth, life and death. Then re-birth, life and death. He gave a perfect example on when a couple first got together, it was just the two of them. That became the birth and the life they lived until they had a child and the life they used to know came to it`s death.

Now, with the new born in the picture, we get to the re-birth of the life they have to live. They need to adjust to the life they find themselves in. If they want to live life like they used to when it was just the two of them, they will loose their balance and soon fall out. God said, A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they too shall become one. I have met a lot of couples whom thought that the moment they share their vows, immediately they become one. Becoming one is a process. The is nothing that God does that does not require effort. Becoming one is a process baby. You have to get to a place where everything you do comes from minds that are united.

To be one requires sacrifices and adjustments. Communication and understanding. Knowledge and wisdom. Trust and Faith. Challenges are the ones that God uses to test us on whether what we agreed on we will do. To know someone best, you will have to see them when they are going through challenges. How they handle them will tell you how they will live with you. If they keep running away from them, they will never grow and stay. And no one wants to be with someone who is not growing. Challenges are designed to make us strong and grow wisely. We ought to grow when encountering them.

God place a responsibility on a man always. It is a man`s duty to make sure that he leaves his father and mother. If you look at it, he never placed it on a woman. Life evolves. The things you used to do when your young you cannot do them when you are old. You need to grow and adjust together to where you find yourselves in when it comes to life. Grow together on the levels or stages that life brings to you. Basically, life will give you what you have chosen. Whether you make bad choices or good choices, make them together and face life together. Your love will grow and become stronger.

Relationship is hard work and it is not for the faint hearted. You know from the get go that if your partner does not become your number one fan, you won`t grow with him/her into the things your heart desires. If that becomes the case, all will you be doing to each other would be wasting time. Woman mostly are the one`s whom their dreams get sidelined. And God gave us gifts and talents knowing definitely by them we will be alive. If I keep your fire burning as your partner on the things you love, I know for a fact that you will always be alive to live and you will do the same to me. Unless your the type that loves to withdraw and never deposit. A heart that is full of fire, passionate about life and in love, no matter the challenges, it will always triumphant.

Growing together is important. It is the key element that as couples you out to prioritize. The only people that you must invest in are your partners. Emotionally, Financially and Mentally. A couple that prays and stands together will conquer anything.